The act of comparing yourself to others denies the existence of YOU in this world
One of the most valuable lessons I've learned in my life, whether personal or professional, is that comparing oneself to others is destructive.
It's not that we can't find something good in comparison, but the negatives outweigh the positives.
From comparison arises:
- Jealousy
- Resentment
- Betrayal
- Hindrance of progress
- Getting stuck in time
We Are All Different
Human beings are created to have many unique and different things from each other:
- Different bodies
- Different minds
- Different perspectives
- Different levels of pain and pleasure
- Patient and impatient people
- Different laughs
- Unequal talents and abilities
- Different expectations
- And many more
Comparison Is Destructive in Family
Parents should not make the mistake of comparing their children to each other and weighing their characteristics or progress in life.
This may create healthy competition among children, but in most cases, it arouses negative feelings and insecurities that ruin their relationship and harmony.
They are unique human beings with different qualities and should be valued for who they are.
Each one's journey is very different, with events that shape the future and determine their direction.
Comparison Is Destructive in Relationships
Neither partner should make the mistake of comparing their partner with others—whether those others are taken as examples in every aspect of life.
The relationship must be hermetic in this aspect to prevent influences that raise doubts.
Each should value themselves and their partner for the differences they have from others. This elevates the relationship to a higher level and enhances its longevity.
Comparison Is Destructive in Professional Life
Especially for designers, it's a very common phenomenon.
We suffer from:
- The opinions of others
- Doubts about ourselves and our abilities
- Frequently comparing ourselves to others
This destroys our self-confidence, our originality, and then our lives.
The Problem with Judgment
If we objectively judge, it would be fair to evaluate everyone's work. But none of us is born to judge like that.
We judge subjectively in every case.
In such circumstances, there is no place for comparison with anyone—everyone has their place in this world.
In the attempt to surpass and master nature, we objectively judge only in one way: by subjectively comparing one person to another.
Finding Your Own Place
Instead of finding our place in this world, we rush to take someone else's place.
Of course, being all in the wrong places leads to strong emotional clashes. We cannot judge ourselves because the place we want to sit doesn't suit us when that place has been crafted masterfully for someone else with smaller buttocks.
Think about this when the idea of comparing or surpassing someone comes to your mind.
The Unequal Scale
If we weigh a handful of sand on one side and a handful of cotton on the other, it is clear which way the scale will tip.
Likewise, trying to weigh the minds of two people against each other will never yield an equal result.
The Better Path
Instead of spending your life searching for others:
Enrich your life in search of yourself.
Uplift others by appreciating them for who they are—not for what you wish they were.
If possible, work to help each other find the good within themselves and become more of who they truly are.
